We all want the Sex and the City girl gang as friends, but making friends past high school or even college, is definitely not sitcom material.
It can be challenging, intimidating and downrightuninteresting.
Some might even wonder what’s the point? Why even bother to make new friends? In the age of social distancing and digital everything, making human connections seems like an oxymoron.
But nevertheless, it is still important to build real relationships with real humans becauseit’s been proven that internet excess can virtually harm our social connections.
As social creatures, we were created for community and thrive in environments where we are connected and supported.
But given our current modern landscape, there is a need foradaptationas new social ruleshaveemerged.
And according to Forbes, “you need to work extra hard to make sure you’re interacting in a way that allows you to build genuine, meaningful relationships”.
So here are 3 ways to build meaningful social connections in the virtual age.
1. Develop a few close, caring relationships with friends, family, or coworkers.
Put effort into maintaining your closest relationships by checking in regularly, acknowledging important life events, listening, showing up when they need you, and being there through life’s ups and downs. Call your people on the phone and schedule social-distance plans (if you both feel comfortable, of course). I promise you will feel better after.
2. Create a list of apps/hobbies/locations that can help you to meet people
Think of fun, creative, social, or volunteer activities that you would naturally enjoy or find meaningful.
Look into gyms, meetups, online groups that align with your interests.
Research, research and research.
Then make a list of your new social goals and end it with a plan about how to fit these into your busy schedule.
Friendships only work when you do.
By being the friend you want you attract those who are meant to be in your life.
What are you willing to let go of to make more time for socializing?
3. Take inventory of your relationships.
If most of your relationships are superficial, consider if you’d like to go deeper with these people. Are they capable of being the kind of close friends you’d like? Depending on the answer, you may decide to speak up more about your needs, reach out and initiate more, or look for different types of friends.
There is always something we can do to create a life of connectivity.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
So lovelies, how do you connect? Do you still have the same group of friends you had from childhood? What are your challenges when making friends as an adult?